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how to shut-up?!?

few days back, i know VERY well i'm inviting trouble by posting a mesg to our BMSG group.. someone asked how to answer to a mommy's Q of "How to stop baby from having to suckle to sleep in the day and night?".. i know i will be immediately labelled, shot down, "penalised" or mabbe thrown out from the group and YET i hv to open my big mouth and answered: "CIO".. in one sentence, CIO (Crying-It-Out) method is a sleep training method for young babies of 6mo to 1.5yo.. anyway, there are many variants of this method.. i wun go in-depth cos i'm not discussing abt CIO here.. the unpopularity of it is to leave the bb crying until bb learn to fall asleep.. but that's just the tip of the iceberg.. like i said, i wun go in-depth..

if ppl think i'm a militant bfg mommy, u shd see these mommies in bmsg.. cult may be the word.. okie, they label me, so i labelled them.. anyway, i've a BIG mouth, u readers shd know by now..

i can never understand these mommies.. why must they think e'one must follow their way? if not, one is a lesser mom? as counsellors, shdn't we be understanding and offers moral support to a mommy without being judgemental? i always tell others, i may be militant, but my "military" only applies to ken.. for others, i try to be understanding of their situation.. the mom is adult enough to make her own call.. we offer her choices, she makes her own decision..

the answers these mommies will give is, "hang on.. i'm still bfg at nite for 1-2x and my tod is 2yo".. i mean, if i'm the distress mommy, i alreadie distress enuf and u telling me to hang on for 2 yrs and no lights at the tunnel for me? but then again, my answer is also not that good.. who in the right mind will CIO their bb? but my actual answer to the mommy will be this:

do set a routine of feed-play-sleep.. every feed, make sure bb succkles well and do not let bb sleep on your breast.. if bb dozing off, unlatch.. after feeding, play with bb and then later put bb to sleep by putting bb down in his cot.. same routine everyday..baby thrives on routine.. perhaps u wd want to try that?

being a mommy is hard.. being a bfg mommy is harder.. being a FTWM (full time working mom) bfg mom is harder still.. but i'm just thankful that at least ken wants to suck! and he's not a premie! aiyo, counselling premie mommies are the worst!.. u just feel drain and sad for the mom.. the mom hv to round in and out of NICU.. and premie has not develop their suckling ability.. so, it's really an uphill tasks for these mommies..

so, why do a mommy want to judge another mommy? actually women are the worst enemy to women.. they bitched each other like nobody business.. and i find me too.. my bitchiness is increasing with age! scary!! but i only bitch to EM.. and now i hv this blog as an outlet..heh..

my maxim, "A happy mommy is the BEST mommy!".. whatever path or method of parenting one chose, one need to be happy about it. No point of being resentful, or feeling tired to beyond functioning properly.. put 100% effort in each task.. rather than 100% in one task and 0% in another.. if i want to do something, i want to do well.. if i can't do well, i dun even want to try unless absolutely necessary.. like cooking, i wun even try.. cos i know i will suck in it and it does not make me happy.. so, i dun even bother to attempt to cook! Life is that..

so, back to the Q.. how to shut-up? if not, i will make more foes than friends..

Merry Christmas!

part2..

as mentioned yesterday, we went to the airport.. VERY tiring.. walk up and down and yet din't see a plane taking off cos i'm very impatient and getting cranky.. haiz.. anyway, here are some pics.. my blog is turning into a photo blog, so i realise.. heh..

slinging daddy.. he has not much choice cos i sewed this for him, so he must use..

and we end this christmas eve with this home-cooked FishNChips..

gee.. i'm so tired!

now i remember why i dun like to cook.. it's so darn tiring! can anyone believe how lembik i am? i just got tired from "shredding" cabbages!! how can that be? okie.. mu initial intention is to shred a quarter of a cabbage.. but i feel very icky.. cos, that means i dun get to wash the cabage leave by leave.. so, i stop shredding and soak each leave by peeling them.. then what? aiyo, i have to use knife and cut up thinly!! it's so much work!! now tell me anyway i can do faster than that? so i spend 1 freaking hr just to do half a big soup bowl of cabbages! i give up!! i'm supposed to finish the quarter of cabbage.. but i'm too lazy to continue.. we will all just have less to eat tmr..

i hv tasted though.. it's somewhat nice.. mabbe b'cos after so much work, i trick my brain into believing it's nice.. i put mayo, a tbsp of lemon juice, 1.5tsp of sugar and 2 pinches of salt and a dash of pepper.. so, let's wait for the cabbage to serap all the mayo and stuff and taste real good tmr.. hiak hiak..

so tmr, left the fish to fry and the fries as well..

and, we'r going to airport tmr to watch aeroplane!! i'm going to believe it will be the only place that is not crowded!! i hope so! cos, ken has been learning signing and by looking at the real thing, he can relate better.. so, let's hope by tmr, he will be able to sign "aeroplane" and at the same time we may avoid all the crowded malls and cafes and restaurants.. what is it abt x'mas that makes ppl want to spend money?

Happy Winter Solstice!

eh, today is Winter Solstice.. means time to "jia yi" (eat tang yuan).. .. i simply love this.. but no matter how many times i do, my mom's still the best.. issit the gula melaka here no power?!!?!?

baked this last nite too..

of maids..

1 or 2 day ago, news reported that a 21 year old maid jumped down from 23 story with her charge, a 5-mth old baby boy.. seems that the little boy's grandfather is in the flat as well.. news like this will definitely make ppl question my decision of leaving Ken alone with my helper WITHOUT supervision at home. Even with supervision such case can happen, what more, without? And, yesterday, I received a call from my MIL telling me how worried she is. And, during a gathering on Sat, I was sitting beside 2 SAHMs.

1 of them asked, "Who is taking care of Ken?"
I said, "my maid" *pause* "un-supervised".
*silence* ensued...

I'm very sure they feel awkward. For a pause of 5 sec, I felt I need to add something to break the silence.
I said, "I have a good maid."

And, I quickly change the topic of discussions.

I can feel that I'm labelled. Probably a heartless mom, I supposed. I can't tell people I have no choice. People will think that, "well, you can live within your means. Lower expectation. Do you know that a child's first 6 years is very important?", etc.. But, of course I know all these. I'm doing my best in my own capacity. I try hard. We have 2 sets of parents with no money! Anything happen, I'm very sure we will need to fork up the money for their medical care, etc. So, sad to say, both EM and I have to continue working.

So what do I feel about this incident? I find that it's the boy's karma. It can happen on any being, why this little boy? Because it is his karma.

So, am I to blame everything on karma? I pray hard for Ken to have the good fortune to have good carers. So far, he's really blessed in a way. My previous nanny was very good with Ken. My maid currently I have no complaints. I feel I can only protect his life so much. In the end, it is his life to lead. If it's his karma to have a short life, even if I'm a SAHM, accidents can happen. Life is with its cause and effect. So, I try to do my good deeds. And, I can only offer my prayers. At the end of the day, I know, life has too many choices. I pick one and live it! And, I can only hope that the choice that I've chosen, the path I'm walking will be a good path, a correct path. Peace.

buy, buy and more buys..

bought this clock for ken's room.. actually i have a small table clock on top of the table.. but it's so hard to see the time.. so, mabbe with this clock we can see better? and it's only $10.. err.. i think it's quite cheap.. hopefully can last at least a year?

ohh.. and also bought this Baby Piano some time back.. it's only $4..

and as you can see, it has 8keys (1 octave).. so, now, i'm on a quest on songs that can be played on 1 octave.. found this 2.. fun, ya? Happy Piano-ing, everyone.

ken kisses mama!

i capture some of the frame and make it into a gif.. so, that most ppl can view without those video "software"..

finally, managed to..

"clean up" all those pics taken from our Canon A70 camera.. first, b'cos it requires no film, we are very "trigger" happy in snapping the shots.. then all will be downloaded to my PC.. then i will hv to go thru each pic and each short video clips.. those memorable ones, i will copy to my "Photo Album" folder which categorised into family, ken, frens, etc.. later i will back up this 2 folder to my another hard disk.. and also a 2nd backup to EM's PC.. it's really banyak leceh.. but if i dun do that, those nice shots will not be filtered out.. so, i have various ken's milestones on video clips.. e.g. he pretending to talk on phone, his first few steps.. etc.. so, it's easy for me to see then to search thru the whole directory.. anyway, what am i rambling abt?

i realise recently thera are a lot of lurkers in my blog.. so, suddenly i'm inspired to update ken's site so that it's more up to date with ken's latest pictures rather than those taken way back in aug.. heh.. so that i can get a chance to show off.

but i realise, my blog has more pics than words.. a picture holds a thousand words.. so goes the saying..

one yippee news! my company is like so generous this year..

With immediate effect , the Management has agreed that if a Public Holiday falls on a Saturday (our non-working day), the next following Monday will be a replacement holiday.

that means, i dun hv to work on the 27th nor the 3rd Jan next year!! .. wow.. now, i feel like got so much time.. mabbe i shd get my mom and dad to come and visit us.. can get her to teach me do the 9-layer kuih more proper.. but hor, she's such a perfectionist.. *groan*.. mabbe i shd do something she doesn't know how to do.. so that my ears wun get so busy.. ke ke.. i'm so mean!.. Grinchy Biow.. ..

ohh.. and i also learned that i only hv 3 wisdom tooth and they are all inside my gums! the 2 lower ones are in fact growing horizontally! really horizontal.. my dentist said, will definitely need operation to get them out.. i love my this dentist! No, he's not handsome looking.. but he's so patient that i can ask him lotsa Qs.. and knowing me, i always hv tonnes of Qs.. but, i do not have to get them out *now*.. can be done later.. like 4-5yrs later if dun pose problems to me earlier.. so, i will refuse to think abt it.. cos i ever ask another dentist how the procedure is like.. i nearly fainted from his description.. if i opt to remove them, i definitely opt for GA.. i can't imagine the opening my eyes for the whole procedure.. i'm too chicken! it begins with cutting of gum, sawing away the bone, chipping away the tooth to bring out the pieces.. *thud* (i've pengsan-ed on the floor now)

one last thing abt my this dentist, he will discuss his fees to me before proceeding.. and lemme decide which tooth i want to "repair" first.. yes, my teeth are all decaying thanks to my uneven teeth! hmm, i like to feel i'm in charge.. ke ke.. if only his fees aren't that expensive .. but for his service, i will still go to him..

more, more photos..

these are my nieces from my eldest sis Hong..

friends said the older one on the right looks like me when i'm young! ke ke..

ohh.. heh..

it's like photo overload!

anyway, this is a photo EM took by outstretching his hand.. it's a wonder that we were all captured!

the last of the EBMs on the Oct 6th..

tis the last of the EBMs.. haven't get into blogging it as i didn't tidy up my photos until today..

this was during my hey days..

all gone now.. looking back, really felt a sense of accomplishment.. though it was so tough.. ha ha.. it's a bitter sweet journey! Do i regret walking this path? definitely NO!.. it's due to my bfg quest that i get to know some bfg mommies from m4m to share my ups and downs..

Banana Muffin

Verdict: not nice..

another bb joining our IJ gang..

i'm so happy for my fren, goat! tsk..for now i agak agak the EDD.. cos, she only emailed me that she is 14w now.. so i worked backwards! can't wait for her to email me with more info.. ke ke..

i baked the..

pandan kaya cake.. and again i failed! It's the 3rd time! shd i give up? i dun feel like giving up! i can't believe that i can't bake it.. i'm trying to get karen the one who posted the recipe to guide me again.. but i like very imposing on her.. hope that she will give me pointers again.. sad.. but then again i hv almost 800g of hoon kwee, the flour that is needed to cook the kaya, courtesy from Min.. so, i can bake like another 8-9 times? .. do i hv such strong passion for this cake? let's see!

only looks presentable a bit when cut up.. alamak!